A detailed list of twenty-one things I’ve learned in life so far…

With my twenty-first birthday being today, I thought it would be a cool idea to share some of the things I’ve learned in my life; twenty-one of them to be exact!

While I’ve obviously learned more than just these things in my life, this list contains the things I’ve learned most. Life can be crazy, sad, and an emotional roller coaster… but we can’t let our blessings go unnoticed or the fact that we are here living this precious thing we call life.

I hope some of you, if not all or maybe even just one, take something away from this. I can’t thank you enough for your continuous love and support; you mean the world to me and please never stop shining the light you’ve been given. I love you!


Twenty-One Things I’ve Learned In Life

1.) You can’t let the way others treat or say things to you affect how you see yourself. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in what others say or think of us that we start to see ourselves in that light and we can’t do that. Focus on you and forget what the negative people have to say; what you think about you matters most.

2.) Relying on people isn’t good. When you rely on someone you’re automatically setting yourself up to fail, even if the person you’re relying on is good. The only true person you can rely on is yourself, don’t set yourself up for disappointment.

3.) Don’t second guess yourself, just do whatever you think is right and everything else will fall into place. Life is a trial and error process that we are lucky enough to experience, don’t waste time wondering if you did or didn’t do something right.

4.) Have faith and believe in yourself. When you are able to do these things, your relationship with yourself and your life will become so much better.

5.) Don’t let people take advantage of your kindness and heart. I am a firm believer in second chances, but not third or fourth chances. The moment you show someone they can take advantage of you is the moment they know they can continue to do so, that is unless you don’t allow it to happen in the first place.

6.)  When someone treats you like they don’t care, believe them. That’s literally a quote and I couldn’t agree more. You can’t beg for someone to love or treat you the right way. You owe it to yourself and your soul to deserve much better. Don’t settle for anyone treating you less then you are; you’re perfect and deserve the world.

7.) Having a sweet sixteen and inviting a bunch of people you don’t like or don’t even  know is a waste of time, money (sorry Mom), energy, and it’s just plain ol’ dumb. Don’t try and fit in with people you’re already better then… you’re one of a kind and that’s you’re superpower. You rock just the way you are!

8.) Having a lot of friends doesn’t matter. If you have just one real friend, you’re set for life. And if you’re really lucky you’ll get to have a small group of friends that care, support, love, and embrace you as you are; don’t settle for anything less.

9.) You can never take enough pictures or videos, so fill that space up on your phone and then upload it all to your computer when that shits too full. Of course make sure you’re living in the moment too, but make sure you have memories.

10.) Worrying about likes and follows isn’t going to get you anywhere, it’s just going to make you feel like pure shit and will soon take over and consume your life. Follow the people who you love and support you and don’t stress over this stuff to look cool. Trust me, I was INSANE about this for the longest time and now I look back and laugh at how dumb I was being when I did this kind of stuff.

11.) Stop putting up with one-sided relationships. If you’re always the one to text, call, or message first; END IT. It might seem hard to do at first, but you can’t be the only one putting in the effort. It’s a two way street… not just one.

12.) Don’t move across the country in the matter of finding out ten days prior. You’ll most likely end up having to come back home because you can’t rely on people. Please see # 2 because this shit is ALL SO TRUE.

13.) Don’t regret bad decisions you’ve made. We all make mistakes and eventually learn right and wrong; even if we have to learn the hard way; we still learn.

14.) Don’t confuse liking someone with loving someone, it’ll fuck your mind right the hell up. There’s a difference between liking someone vs being in love with someone. Sometimes we confuse the feelings and thoughts we have for another person because we just like the idea of them and us together, so stop right now.

15.) Everything, and I mean everything, happens for a reason. Even those horrifying and traumatic reasons that we just don’t understand? They have a reason for happening and while we might not know that reason today, tomorrow, or even a year or two from now, we’ll one day learn why things happened the way they did.

16.) The way you speak and think of yourself matters more than you can even imagine. When you speak down to yourself or constantly let your insecurities get the best of you, you’re destroying the beautiful and innocent life of your soul. Take a deep breath and realize how fucking great you are.

17.) You can’t expect to have good relationships with people if you don’t have a good relationship with yourself. As hard as it may seem to do, you have to learn to love and accept yourself. We all have a purpose of being put on this earth and owe it to ourselves to live life and just love ourselves for who and what we are.

18.) Taking a break isn’t a bad thing, sometimes it can be the best thing for you. Give your mind, body, soul, and overall self a break if you think you need it. If all you simply did was make it through a hard day, take that break you deserve and don’t let anyone tell you different.

19.) Asking for or seeking help isn’t weakness, it’s courage.

20.) Mental health relapses aren’t something you should be ashamed of, you should embrace them and realize that God is putting you through these things or hard times because he knows that you can handle whatever life throws at you.

21.) You are worthy of love and life. Someone very special to me once told me to “shine bright always,” and I couldn’t of needed this statement more in my life.